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Prayer for a Broken Relationship

Today’s Reflection

When a Relationship Breaks Down

I’ve tried everything, Lord Jesus.
I’ve tried reaching out. I’ve tried drawing back.
I’ve tried talking. I’ve tried silence.
I’ve cried, pleaded, yelled, and whispered.
I’ve prayed.
I can’t think of anything else to do.

So I give this relationship to you. I ask for nothing—no special favors, no divine interventions, no sudden revelations. I simply place the relationship in your hands.

And in giving it to you, I feel great relief. It is done. I have finally given up and accepted this ending. I know that from this moment on, my life will be different, and I accept this beginning as well.

Give me the strength to let all else go. Keep me from returning to my strivings to maintain this relationship. Remind me that I have given it to you.

Lead me to the higher ground, dear Jesus, where I can leave behind any bitterness, accusations, anger, sorrow, and pain. Fill me instead with your peace and the knowledge that you are with me.

Be in this space between the ending and the beginning. It is a scary place for me as I begin to work through my life without this relationship in it. Be between what was—the memories, the dreams, and the hopes—and what is to come.

Draw me closer to you in this time between the ending and the beginning. Let me see the place ahead not as a place to be feared but as a place you have prepared for me.

– Patricia Wilson
Quiet Spaces

From pages 212–214 of Quiet Spaces: Prayer Interludes for Women by Patricia Wilson. Copyright © 2002 by Patricia Wilson. All rights reserved. Used by permission of Upper Room Books. http://bookstore.upperroom.org/ Learn more about or purchase this book.

Today’s Question

Do you know of a friend who would appreciate this prayer? Send it to him or her. Share your thoughts.

Today’s Scripture

May God continue to bless us; let all the ends of the earth revere him.
Psalm 67:7, NRSV

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  • Wendy LeBolt May 2, 2013, 7:36 am

    I do have a friend I can send this to, except the relationship in “question” is with her young daughter. Let us not pre-suppose that relationships we give over to God are ended forever. Giving them, guarantees a new start, which may look like ending or may look like beginning again – in a new way with a bit looser hold.

  • robert moeller May 2, 2013, 9:17 am

    I suspect we all know someone, including ourselves, for whom this generally applies. In my case some former in-laws who in the sensitive days after the passing of their niece, my wife, said some words that hurt a lot. Listening to scripture that says we should not let family ties be lost I have thought about trying to reconnect only to hear new words that irked me again. I can’t change who they are, only God can do that. Still I think it might be worth a try on my part. Through my daughter there have been reconnects with others so maybe there will be some improvement. I’ve prayed for this. I don’t want to be upset about it.

    Lord, Your will be done with cancer patients and all who are dealing in whatever way with this or any other terrible disease. When Your will is done, everything will be right. As humans we desire physical healing, restoration to health, but what is seen is not more important than what is not seen. Love, joy, peace, harmony, faith, and hope reign over the physical. Long ago Jesus was physically with us and now Jesus reigns in the hearts of believers. Lord, I pray Your will be done. In Your name I pray, Amen.

  • Mary Ng Shwu Ling May 16, 2013, 7:28 am

    Father God, I pray for those who are struggling with broken relationships. May you restore and heal their relationships. Help them to forgive and be reconciled.

    • kwanele April 11, 2016, 8:02 pm

      Thanks so much for this prayer. I really needed it. After praying for so long, crying. I am even out of ideas, my boyfriend has decided to leave without saying a word, neither answering my calls. Worse part he knows how much I love him, he even used to say it. But I trust God to pierce through his heart. Thank you again.

  • Rosemary Rosales June 26, 2013, 9:32 am

    This is exactly what am going thur after a 3 yrs relationship. Thx you for that prayer.

    • Sabrina D'almeida November 29, 2013, 9:09 am

      Hi. I too am going thru it. It hurts so much

  • Yari August 7, 2013, 11:29 pm

    I just finish getting dumped after 6 years it’s only been a week..I am hurting but felt a little better after reading this..it hit home for me, because I found myself begging and pleading him..I wrote hundred emails and got ignored, I was ashamed by my actions and rejection, so it was comforting to read this. I need to focus on letting go, healing and knowing that God close that door for a reason..

  • tarsha August 27, 2013, 6:15 am

    please pray for tasha and Anthony. please pray that Anthony will be convicted of his sins. please pray that he will become saved sanctified Holy Ghost filled. pray that he will do right by me and his family. pray that we will go to church together and worship God together. please pray that every circumstance and every road block that’s an our way will be destroyed in the name of Jesus…. please pray that Anthony’s heart will be changed towards me tarsha.. pray that he has the desire to spend more time with us his family. it’s my desire for us to become a solid loving family. Anthony is a musician in the church and goes to church several times a week. please let him feel convicted when he’s playing God music to do right by me and his family and let him do the right thing by me. pray thst he comes home and won’t stay away from home another night. I also pray that he would talk to me more. that he will be more sharing &caring. please pray that he will become loving like you once was. please pray that our relationship will become solid and strong. pray that he will not step outside of our union with another woman ever again. pray that you will remain faithful unto me and me only. in Jesus name I pray amen

    • marcus September 18, 2013, 5:57 pm

      Hi, Tarsha my name is Marcus and i will pray for and Anthony because im in the same situation so please pray for Marcus and Demetrice, The key is to not put energy into him don’t give him any attention when he call always pray and stay busy don’t call him and when he call always make an excuse to get off the phone he will come around

  • Minette Wood September 17, 2013, 4:09 am

    Dear Prayer Partner,
    I need prayer for my son Aundray he was having a affair with a girl called tracy for 5 years and now he has left her. If it is God’s will I would like to see this relationship back again. If this is a free prayer request please pray for him.

    Yours in Christ
    Minette Wood

  • Kevin September 22, 2013, 2:52 pm

    Please pray for my relationship of two and a half that is broken and in desperate need of repair. Please pray that God will reunite us. I’m so sad, lonely, and broken hearted. I do not accept that I have to give up and just hand it over as done. The only thing I know how to do at this point is pray fervently for reconciliation. We spoke last night and had a good conversation, but no resolution. Today I’m alone and hurting. Thank you for your prayers.

  • Evelyn C September 26, 2013, 7:01 am

    Pray for this relationship that has been going to unstable periods afflicted with familial pain and suffering..that we remain focused on our love and that this man forgive himself to be able to lead a life of love and tranquility with me. Amen

  • Chermaine September 28, 2013, 9:35 am

    Please pray for me and my ex boyfriend, Daryl. We had recently broken up and it was a sudden break up too, no one had expected it to happen. He feels that he is too stressed from his work and can’t be committed in a relationship right now. Please pray that he will see that love can only bring you to greater heights, and not bring you down. We never had a huge fight, ever, and I try to be an understanding girlfriend. Somehow, his stress got the better of him and he decides to break up saying that “he has lost all feelings for me”. I don’t believe that he can lose his feelings so suddenly, he’s just blinded by the stress.
    I do love him, and I believe that he’s the One for me. We met on my birthday, and I believe that God brought him into my life for a reason. I believe that God will be able to heal my broken relationship with him, and bring him back to me. I have faith and trust in Him, as He is able to do miraculous things.

    Thank you for your prayers.

  • nicole October 7, 2013, 3:00 am

    Pray for this relationship that seems to be very unstable and painful I ask you lord that you may be the leader and let us realise what brought us together in the first place..Amen

  • Rupanzil October 10, 2013, 2:10 am

    Please pray for this relationship, i have been in since a year its been a long distant relationship , we shared a beautiful courtship though, knowing this guy he was the one who would never give up on this, but its a sudden drastic change and things have gone astray , i really want this relationship to work with god being the center of both our lives i want him to restore this relationship in the best possible way , we are not in talking terms at all, its been a month and i am completely, he is in town and he hasn’t even informed me , he doesn’t want to be in a long distant relationship, and i am ready to adjust to everything to make this relationship work , i have been praying and praying continuously as i seriously do not want any other person in my life other than him .. Please please please do pray that things may get better and somehow this relationship falls in place perfectly and we may start to talk and get back together for good

  • Simangele Mbhele December 11, 2013, 8:57 pm

    Hi There

    May you please pray for me & my fiance Khulekani, we have been together for seven years & we were planning to get married but he has changed a lot I feel like our love is fading away he’s no longer loving the way he used to be. All I’m praying for is for things to get back the way it was in Jesus name.

  • angle January 8, 2014, 11:13 am

    Ive been goin through for 13 years the relationship never work, been praying nothing never change, it takes me 13 years to realize that i cannot change anybody, and i need to be with a man who wants to be with me . Dealing with drug addiction my life been a misery for a long time, first didnt know what was wrong but through players god reveal to me my husband is a drug addict he cheated and walk away like its nothing, for 13 years dont know how its like to have a family or holiday or valentine, i beileve god will restore the 13 yrs with a man of god . pray for Leon Robinson to be saved

  • Olivia January 30, 2014, 10:48 pm

    Prayer partners,
    I am a single mother and my daughters father and I split up shortly after she was born. I thought I would never find someone who could love my daughter and myself as their own but someone found us and made us a family. He recently left us both and now I feel like I have been rejected a second time and the same for my daughter. I need prayers for peace in my heart, trust in The Lord, peace for my daughters heart, and the ability to love again one day.

  • Jonathan March 16, 2014, 9:28 pm

    You know the desires of my heart, God. Please, heal the pain. I have loved Kerri for many years, and can’t give her up, or give up on her. I’m trying to put it in your hands, but you know that’s something I struggle with. Help me to do that, and please, keep me calm and at peace and restore what’s been broken. I know that’s your desire. I’m trusting you now, God. Please, show yourself. I love you, and regardless of what happens, I know you’re in control and working things out for my good. Thank you for being the awesome God you are. In your name I pray, Amen.

  • Terrell Lampkin March 27, 2014, 11:59 am

    I misread my friend by talking to other women on social media. Our relationship has broken. I apologise and she said she forgiven me .I need prayer to rebuild ourselves and walk with Jesus together.

  • Maria May 16, 2014, 11:28 am

    Pleas heavenly father and Mary our mother help me with my relationship. My ex boyfriend Edwin and I just broke up 2 week’s a go. I love him so much. He left me because he is not happy with himself. He want to get back on his feet and find a job on his own. We were talking 3 times a day until his cell phone got cut off. I speak to him when he can borrow one. Please help me figure out how to have patience and strength. I would love to be back with and that temptation doesn’t get between us. Please help me with this situation because every time we talk he reminds me that we are just friends. Thank you heavenly father to listening to my prayers.

  • blessing July 24, 2014, 8:49 pm

    Hi there;please pray for me and my girlfriend we be been together for 15 years; but now we fight and she asked to be alone and she needs to heal and to be strong.so if its Gods will I would love to be with her again thank you

  • Darryl September 8, 2014, 7:22 pm

    This is my prayer. I pray God keeps you covered and safe. Give you the desires of your heart. I will always love you but I’m not who or what makes you happy. I never tried to control you and it hurts to know that’s how you feel. I thought I would get to say this face to face but I don’t think that will happen. I know you care for me also but we have no control over our hearts. I’ve prayed that God will remove my feelings for you because it ‘s tearing me apart. I always allow you to break my heart. I give up! Please give your mom and Sandra my apologies for bothering them. I wish you all the happiness you want. I remove myself from your life . Helen

  • Merideth October 22, 2014, 8:26 pm

    My best friend and I experienced a very awful situation that has caused our friendship to end. Please pray that God restores our friendship back to a place of love and trust for each other.

  • Gloria December 11, 2014, 11:31 am

    Please Lord Jesus heal my relationship with Geoff Scott Bak, I miss him so much, I really want to get married to him, please take away the deception and lies that have broken us apart, please remove temptation from his heart help show him the truth that I truly did love him. I was so happy to find another person who believed in you, but I had trouble trusting him, and he wanted to give up because of that please soften his heart and show them the truth, help him to feel love for me in his heart again once before show him that I am the one he asked for you, I am the woman he prayed for, I miss him and I don’t want to give up but I trust in your judgment Lord and accept that if this is not the man you chose for me to marry, I understand let your will be done in all things I love and praise you God. I really would like to hear from him again but he is filled with anger, and pride and he listens to the wrong people, please help restore our relationship thank you God I trust in you. In Jesus name I pray amen.

  • Eshita George March 6, 2015, 2:42 pm

    Richard is going through depression… may b cause of me… we were very happy with each other… but he is not talking to me from past 8 days… what kind of misunderstanding have taken place in his mind we don’t know… his parents r also worried… we were about to get married.. as we met to get married through his mom.. we were about to give our decision.. but now suddenly the things are changed… please help me to rescue our relationship… I’m getting sick and tired due to these circumstances… please ask Jesus to protect him and our relationship… please help us… My love for Richard is unconditional… Please God make him realise about my love for him.

  • Brandi March 29, 2015, 7:33 pm

    My boyfriend and I recently broke up his name is Bert I just ask for prayer he says he’s confused about being in a serious relationship . My God isn’t of confusion I pray that what’s meant to be and will be. I’m heartbroken this hurts so much I just ask that someone keep me in their prayers thanks so much!

  • Brandi March 29, 2015, 7:36 pm

    I haven’t spoken to him in about 2 weeks and it seems to get harder every day I love and miss him so much. I brought him back to church, reading his bible having daily devotional I pray Bert and I reunite I love this man with all my heart

  • Precious June 9, 2015, 1:06 pm

    I must say that after reading this I IMMEDIATELY felt a sense of peace. I thought constant prayer pleading and begging causes God to move but in all actuality it just stresses you out. Simply praying and leaving at the alter is God’s will and also very very rewarding. Sometimes we leave it and come back and pick it up after we think God isn’t moving fast enough or how we would like Him too. This is a great mistake. Remember those who aren’t meant to be in your life can’t stay and those who are meant can’t leave.

  • dante August 21, 2015, 2:30 pm

    Prayers to heal this relationship.

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  • Ronnie September 15, 2015, 7:01 pm

    I am need of prayers for myself and my wife Sharrel. She wants a divorce because I could not find work fast enough. We’ve only been married for one year. She and I both struggle with depression and past hurtful relationships. Her family and friend tell her to divorce me. My family and friend tell me she’s not worth it and move on with my life. But, for me that’s hard because do love her. Reading the pray, giving it to God, I needed to read because I really struggling with how much I love her.

  • Justine Martin September 28, 2015, 11:20 pm

    I need some prayers for my ex boyfriend Peter and I. Peter and I have been dating for 8 months, and we have been talking about getting married and spending the rest of our lives together. But things started to changed Peter he isn’t willingly to be fully committed relationship and every time we talk about these things with each other he keeps walking away and gets upset about it. Pray for Peter that God will overcome this fear of commitment out of him , and pray for our relationship to be restored , and forgiveness, and I really do love him and I really do care about him. Pray for him to get back on track with God, and to get rid of anything that sinning against God, and pray for him that God will changed his heart and his mind. He hasn’t spoken to me for weeks and months. It is getting really hard on me. Please pray for Peter and I.

  • kenya smith October 26, 2015, 10:30 am

    Please pray for my boyfriend david and I to love and respect each other and to et married

  • emmmm November 1, 2015, 12:46 pm

    Please pray for me and boy boyfriend to get back together.
    He is currently seeing some one else and he doesn’t want anything to do with me.

  • Chase January 22, 2016, 4:34 pm

    Please pray for the healing and reconciliation of Chase and Courtney’s relationship. We have been together for 3 years and have been talking of marriage for the past year and a half… and we have been in a rollercoaster emotionally with so much tension for the past 3 months, because I had been emotionally neglecting her and prideful in my perspective and taking her for granted, because I never thought she would ever betray me or leave me and she ended up resorting to adultery with 2 men (not having an affair, but just sexual relations for a night). I forgive her and I hope she forgives me for betraying her love by taking her for granted and showing hostility, and I know she is sorry and has given it all to god. This time has been very good for us spiritually, because it has completely broken us down and built up our character and relationship with Christ, but the pain is so overwhelming and I miss her so much and yearn for her to come back to me and rebuild our relationship on Christ and his love, rather than our previously unhealthy dysfunctional ways toward the end of our relationship. Pray that we are reunited in a relationship stronger and healthier and trusting than ever before. Pray that neither of us are giving up on the hope of staying together, but that this pain and this waiting period is everything we need to develop into who we need to be for ourselves, each other, and for our father in heaven. I love her with all of my heart and I know she loves me too. Please pray for our love to be strengthened and renewed for each other through christ. Thank you all so much. Please pray that our relationship to be renewed and reformed is in God’s will. We are suffering greatly, but he comforts us in this time

  • Soni March 18, 2016, 6:30 pm

    Please pray for my boyfriend Patrick and I. Our relationship of 2 years ended, and I still am not sure what happened. I still love him and I reached out to him as I feel that I ended the relationship abruptly out of fear, rejection and having given up hope. I still have hope in is Dear God, but I can’t mend it; only you, Dear God, can heal broken relationships even if they appear and seem impossible to fix. Please be in his heart and mine; help is overcome our struggles, our insecurities, our shortcomings, and especially our pride. I need you now, more than ever. Please, heal and reconcile this broken relationship. I’m lost without you. Let no evil forces continue to wreck havoc in what we have. I place all faith and trust in your mighty name, Jesus. Amen.

  • Hellen Nsokolo March 21, 2016, 2:06 pm

    Please God help my relationship mend it am so heartbroken I have been with my boyfriend Steve for two years and he just told me he needs a break…please people pray for me I love him so vey much.

  • Hellen March 21, 2016, 2:07 pm

    Please God help my relationship mend it am so heartbroken I have been with my boyfriend Steve for two years and he just told me he needs a break…please people pray for me I love him so vey much.Amen

  • Raelynn May 4, 2016, 9:06 am

    I feel as though this prayer was written specifically for me.. It outlines my current situation… Thank you so much… I’ve been searching the net for a prayer that best describes my situation and what I require from God… This is it

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