WHEN IT COMES to my aging parent, I find it difficult to straddle the line between her need for independence and her need for assistance. How can I be supportive of her desire to be on her own without neglecting her safety and dignity? There are times when she doesn’t notice spills and odors, when I must protect her from herself, when I overrule what she wants for her own best interest. O Lord, I confess that I get frustrated and treat her like a child. Forgive me. I feel the tension between preserving her self-esteem and maintaining my sanity. My heart breaks for the once independent woman who is losing her abilities. She cannot always see what I see or hear what I hear. But in my efforts to help her, I am not always mindful of her privacy and dignity. Help me to be sensitive to her situation—to her fear, her embarrassment. May I offer her dignity as best I can, knowing that growing older is not easy.
Voices of Aging: Adult Children and Aging Parents Talk with God
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